Category Archive: Chronicals of Being in a Step-Parent Limbo

What is Step-Parent Limbo you might ask? Well, it is the place one finds themselves — men and women — when they become more then just a “friend” to a child, but are not “legally” the child’s step parent or guardian. These are my stories of being in such a place, my daily struggles, decisions, advice and small victories. Follow me as I laugh, cry, and kick my way through this uncharted territory.


SPL: Spending Quality Time verses Quantity Time

SPL Habit: It is hard to resist being the “Cool” SPL and Buying the child things, or taking them places their parents won’t in order to win their affection. NOTE: This is a hard habit to break once you go … Read more »

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SPL Moment in the making

So it has been a while since I last logged on, you see I work an 80 hour Reatil management job and Novemebr through January I am lucky to see my own shadow let alone my family. Elisabeth has been … Read more »

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What Thanksgiving means when in SPL

With the holidays fast approaching, and Thanksgiving being now only two days away, I felt it important to note the emotions I have been going through lately. Elisabeth has been great these past few months, I can really see a … Read more »

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Phase 2 of being in SPL

We have entered the “Your not my Mom/Dad I am not going to listen to you” Stage of our relationship- Habit: I ask her to do something…she turns to her father to get out of what’s been asked of her…UH … Read more »

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SPL Advice

It may feel exhausting, and at times frustrating when the child’s biological parents make decisions you don’t agree with, BUT remember to always support the parent your with and never let the child know of your disapproval in adult decisions.

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SPL Emotional Note

NOTE: It is a very peculiar feeling when left in this limbo. You’re in the child’s life weekly if not daily, so your presence is felt. In my case even though Elisabeth has two very loving parents, my role becomes … Read more »

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My First Step Parent Limbo moment

I first realized I was in ‘SPL’ the moment in which I made the conscience decision to end a very bad habit of Elisabeth’s or as I have affectionately named her the “Candy Locust”. BAD HABIT: Morning Breakfast Routine: 1 … Read more »

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